Who are you going with?

I’ve been sitting here for half an hour, scraping my mind for some blog-worthy material. To no avail. I’m not sure if the problem is that I have nothing, or I have too much… I’m hoping it’s the latter.

When I’m writing a post for you, I panic. I get anxiety. I delete an entire page of writing and start again. Twice.

Then out of the blue, I receive this text message –

“I was just going through some of the photos on my phone, you’re so beautiful my girl… I love you so so so much. Nothing will ever stop me from loving you”

Then I remember, I’ve just updated my About page. Check it out, scroll down about halfway. See where it says ‘Who I am going with’? The person who sent me this message is the person I will be going on my Round the World trip with. Let me introduce you to him!

IMAG0923Missing our Australian Summers!

For now, let’s just refer to him as boyfriend. Boyfriend and I, before we met, had the same big dream of traveling around the world. Right now, we are in the saving & planning stages of our RTW adventure. I think that we are the perfect travel partners. We compliment and contrast each other. He doesn’t like trying new food, I do. I can get overly worried about minute things, whereas he is pretty easy going.

This got me thinking about what and who really makes the perfect travel partner. A significant other? A sibling? A BFF? Perhaps no travel partner at all?

I’ve heard some horror stories of partners going overseas together and coming home separated. Besides death, this would be the worst case scenario for me. This isn’t exclusive to loved up travelers though, what if you were to embark on a trip with your Best Friend Forever and came back but had dropped the ‘best’ and ‘forever’? How about a sibling? You’ve put up with them for X years, you know each other better than anyone else and you even have a secret handshake… Surely you can take on the world together! Don’t want to have the hassle of a +1 and ready for solo navigation? (It can be done, check out Adventurous Kate for proof)

Whoever you decide to spend your time on the road/in the air/on the water with, there are a few things you’ll want to clarify before leaving:

  • Most importantly, do you both want to be there?
    Seems like a silly question, but if one of you had to be begged or convinced to leave their creature comforts behind then this will likely cause resentment.
  • How long will you be gone for?
    1 month? 1 year? Or will it be an on going adventure without a set time before you both mutually decide abroad to come home?
  • Who will pay for what and how will expenses be divided?
    Money can be a problem between people without the added stress of having to deal with it while in transit. You don’t want to end up in a unfamiliar country broke and fighting with one another. Get it sorted.
  • Where will you go?
    Every small town in the country or on the coast? Or only to see the big city lights? Are their particular destinations you want to visit or avoid? Get a rough itinerary sorted before leaving to ensure both parties are satisfied.
  • What do you want to experience?
    Gears will grind if one of you are going away to conquer every summit you come across while the other is happy to lie around sipping on Pina Coladas on the beach all day.

If you can’t get these clarified and settled with a potential travel partner then perhaps flying solo is the best choice. In a future post I will tell you where boyfriend and I stand on each of these points. I’m almost certain I’ve missed some points to consider when deciding who to travel with, so share your thoughts in the comments!